Unity Rises: Empath Awareness
I am learning more about this beautiful gift. Many people are Empaths. Some embrace it, some push it aside, some tap in from time to time and some don't believe it. Being empathic can be such a beautiful thing and it can also be not so fun. It can really affect your everyday life so it's important to know where you are empathing.
Someone who grows up not understanding this word and what it means can really struggle with understanding who they are. If they are never taught, they may get stuck in a pattern of living the energies and emotions of other people. They might hear they are too sensitive or that they are being dramatic. Then some may masque their feelings with anger and rebelling; Cover it up with drugs and alcohol or hide out in the corner avoiding interactions physically or mentally. I feel like this needs to be taught to us from when we are very little.
It would be nice to know that we can bring home our friends or coworkers emotions including thought patterns. You may be feeling completely happy then everyone gets back home at the end of the day, and you feel all these weird emotions. You might get frustrated or triggered easily or just feel off. Yea, those are not your emotions. it's an entanglement of yours, the kids, the spouse, and the collective. The spouse may have had a tough day at work, or the kids could just be having one of those days. Crazy thing is those emotions you are feeling from the family might not even be their own emotions. They, being an empath also can bring home their friends or coworkers' feelings. If your kids are empaths they can be carrying other peoples energy home with them. Thier friends may have had a bad time, and your empath child takes it on as their own, and they direct that sadness or anger towards you as if you did something wrong.
When we are constantly stepping into the energy of others, it can start to make us ask "Who the heck am I?!" It is a wonderful thing to be aware of and to help our kids be aware of this and teach them how to decipher between what energy is their own vs. someone else. This can really help with the already confusing part of being a teenager. One important thing to know is that it's not just the world in our reality that can affect our emotions. Empaths can really feel connected to movies and songs.
When I watch a movie, I feel ALL the feelings. When the character is sad, I get sad. When the character is mad, I feel the anger in my body. It's not just an outside thing its internal. I feel it as if it's happening to me throughout my whole body. When I watch a scary movie, I don't always get scared I can feel this sick feeling in my stomach. I get stuck in my head about how that character didn't do that, or they could've done this to avoid getting killed. It gets so bad that I actually can't sleep because I stay up thinking about it and trying to problem solve it. Now, that is just a movie, series are another story. If a series ends in suspense, I am DOOMED! The characters become a part of my family, like if everything they are going through is in my reality! It's really absurd. I never knew that this was part of being an empath until recently when one of my mentors brought up how it also happens to her. It made me feel better and not so sensitive. Well, I am sensitive that's kind of exactly what an empath is. I am sharing this in hopes that you too can feel some kind of peace with in, by knowing you are not alone.
That was some of the heavier side of being an Empath. Like with everything there is light and there is heavy. There is a lot of light to being an empath, but my main goal of this blog is to let you know how to understand how you are an empath and may not know it. here are some more examples.
I often get people saying, "I don't know why I am telling you this but....." or "I never told anyone that before." and "you make it so easy to open up to." Have you had this experience? If you are an empath, I am pretty sure you have heard one of those sentences at least once. It makes me feel happy that people feel safe to open up to me; I love helping others get through obstacles that arise in our lives. I love how people feel so much lighter after talking to me. It gives me a sense of happiness or gratification.
The important thing here is to not let people always dump on you. we can't try to problem solve the whole story they shared with us for them. When you want to help someone more than they want to help themselves, it is a good time to ask. "Am I enabling this person or empowering them?" Some people are so use to their roller coaster they don't really want to get off. They just enjoy talking about it. We can set boundaries and ask, "are you sharing because you want advice or are you just venting." This will make it easier for you to disconnect from going into savior mode.
Then there is bringing all the emotions you encountered throughout your day home with you. This kind of reminds me of how in the military the Airmen that worked on the Jet fuel had to take off their uniform as soon as they got home because the fumes are so bad they can cause health issues. When we bring home our friends or client's emotions and stories, we can end up taking it out on our family because we feel connected to that emotion of the other person, or we will not be fully present with our family because our mind is off trying to figure out how to save someone else. A good practice to have is to let it all go before entering your home. "I release any emotions and energies that are not mine." You can visualize it all draining out of your feet into the earth to be transmuted or see a white light coming from above to purify it.
Like I mentioned before there is a light and heavy side to everything we experience in life. Being an Empath is beautiful because we can really connect to the other person and understand them on a deeper level. We can help others because we literally feel them.
Once we are aware of what's happening we can choose when we want to connect in with others. We can learn and develop techniques to keep us disconnected from others and stay grounded into our truth. The heavy side is that if we stay in a state of unawareness then we can spiral down a road of confusion. Not knowing who we are, not knowing what we really like to do, and not finding happiness because we get swayed by emotions that are not our own.
Now that you know that you are an Empath take the time to step into the questions. Do some of the techniques I mentioned above and then ask. How do I really feel about this situation, what do I really enjoy doing? Please comment below and share with me some of the ways you have experienced being an Empath. I would love to know.
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